being IN LOVE...magic of love

The best part of being in love is to have someone caring for you, making you feel special and bringing out the best in you. You feel that your existence matters for someone.

At the height of that intense feeling, you do your best to please the person. Your world will usually revolve around that person. You always think and find ways to surprise the person and make him/her realize how much you love him/her. You're seeing the future with the person and hoping that everything will stay the way it is. That he'll make you feel so in love forever.

Then reality sets in, that intense feeling begins to fade. Both your real sides are beginning to show. Demands and expectations are beginning to be imposed. You'll begin to doubt, ask questions and be disappointed from stood-up dates, unanswered calls, uncaring comments/actions and forgotten special events. You will then begin to nag and to push the other person to the limit without realizing you're pushing that person away and suffocating in the process.

This is the worst part of being in love...loosing yourself in the process and expecting the person (who you love) to be the same person you thought he would be. That person who promised to love you endlessly. You forget that anything can change and happen while being in the relationship. You're expecting that everything will happen the way you want it to be.

When these expectations were not met, you'll begin to get hurt. You'll blame that person for making you fall. You'll blame yourself for being foolish and letting yourself fall. You'll eventually hurt that person also. Then the love will eventually fade leaving the pain behind. Then you have to go through the process of letting go and picking up the pieces again. You will feel that you are more incomplete than before.

Before being inlove, one must learn how to leave a part of you. You must have loved yourself first before someone. You must always bear in mind that nothing is permanent in this world, that people and feelings can change anytime.

While being in love, you must enjoy the moment. Make the best you can for it. Learn to trust and let the person grow. At least if it didn't last, you will have something to remember and make you smile.

Lastly, it is only through acceptance that you will overcome the pain. It is only YOU who can heal YOU. Don't expect someone to make you happy; it is YOU who owns your world...

"Things that are not meant to be, will not meant to be..."