love/angst

Love changed me; the way i think...the way i act...the way i decide.
Sometimes, i go even go against my principles and beliefs in life...
Loving doesn't mean i'll be happy always;
Sometimes,all it provides me is pain and misery...
Yet, i was blinded by strong emotions that i failed to see reality...
Sometimes, letting go is the answer;
it hurts like hell, but i will soon realize that it's better to see the person i love to be happy, than lonely with me...

LEARNINGS

I've learned that kisses don't always mean something...that promises can be broken just as quick as they are made. That sometimes goodbyes are really forever and always remember to use I LOVE YOU with extreme caution...coz if used in a wrong way, someone will end up getting hurt...remember that it shoudn't be an everyday word, it also shoudn't be said just beacuse your expected to say it. Make sure you know how and when to use it, coz once you're in love, it shoudn't be that easy to fall out of love.

The Promise

Everyday is expected to keep promises. When our friends fail to fulfill then, we are disappointed. But come to think of it, are we really capable of fulfilling every promise we make? I guess not! For example, you promise to bring your daughter to the movies, but the car won't run or it rains. You promise you will cook for your husband, then there's a brownout or you cannot find the ingredients for the dish. You promise you will be kind, then you see somebody who makes your blood pressure rise. When things like these pop up, off goes your promise.

We are not really in full control of ourselves. That is why, humanly speaking, it is not possible to keep every promise we make. I think it is important to keep in mind that we are able to keep promises only through the strength and grace of God gives us. We are not in full control of anything. We do not even know whether we will live tomorrow or not. And yet we are bold with our promises, when in fact, nothing is ever within our control. Perhaps, it is always good to keep a condition to every promise we make.

The ALPHABET

A--Accept
Accept others for who they are and for
the choices they've made even if you
have difficulty understanding their
beliefs, motives, or actions.

B--Break Away
Break away from everything that stands
in the way of what you hope to
accomplish with your life.

C--Create
Create a family of friends whom you can
share your hopes, dreams, sorrows, and
happiness with.

D--Decide
Decide that you'll be successful and
happy come what may, and good things
will find you. The roadblocks are only
minor obstacles along the way.

E--Explore
Explore and experiment. The world has
much to offer, and you have much to
give. And every time you try something
new, you'll learn more about yourself.

F--Forgive
Forgive and forget. Grudges only weigh
you down and inspire unhappiness and
grief. Soar above it, and remember that
everyone makes mistakes.

G--Grow
Leave the childhood monsters behind.
They can no longer hurt you or stand in
your way.

H--Hope
Hope for the best and never forget that
anything is possible as long as you
remain dedicated to the task.

I--Ignore
Ignore the negative voice inside your
head. Focus instead on your goals and
remember your accomplishments. Your past
success is only a small inkling of what
the future holds.

J--Journey
Journey to new worlds, new
possibilities, by remaining open-minded.
Try to learn something new every day,
and you'll grow.

K--Know
Know that no matter how bad things seem,
they'll always get better. The warmth of
spring always follows the harshest winter.

L--Love
Let love fill your heart instead of
hate. When hate is in your heart,
there's room for nothing else, but when
love is in your heart, there's room for
endless happiness.

M--Manage
Manage your time and your expenses
wisely, and you'll suffer less stress
and worry. Then you'll be able to focus
on the important things in life.

N--Notice
Never ignore the poor, infirm, helpless,
weak, or suffering. Offer your
assistance when possible, and always
your kindness and understanding.

O--Open
Open your eyes and take in all the
beauty around you. Even during the worst
of times, there's still much to be
thankful for.

P--Play
Never forget to have fun along the way.
Success means nothing without happiness.

Q--Question
Ask many questions, because you're here
to learn.

R--Relax
Refuse to let worry and stress rule your
life, and remember that things always
have a way of working out in the end.

S--Share
Share your talent, skills, knowledge,
and time with others. Everything that
you invest in others will return to you
many times over.

T--Try
Even when your dreams seem impossible to
reach, try anyway. You'll be amazed by
what you can accomplish.

U--Use
Use your gifts to your best ability.
Talent that's wasted has no value.
Talent that's used will bring unexpected
rewards.

V--Value
Value the friends and family members
who've supported and encouraged you, and
be there for them as well.

W--Work
Work hard every day to be the best
person you can be, but never feel guilty
if you fall short of your goals. Every
sunrise offers a second chance.

X--X-Ray
Look deep inside the hearts of those
around you and you'll see the goodness
and beauty within.

Y--Yield
Yield to commitment. If you stay on
track and remain dedicated, you'll find
success at the end of the road.

Z--Zoom
Zoom to a happy place when bad memories
or sorrow rears its ugly head. Let
nothing interfere with your goals.
Instead, focus on your abilities, your
dreams, and a brighter tomorrow.

greetings

I read an article about "a filipino thing", I notice that we filipinos have a weird way of starting conversations with people whom we haven't seen for some time. May be your classmate way back in grade school or in high school, perhaps your long time crush then became your friend, then your partner or may be your enemies.My bad!
Normally, it goes like this: "Uuyy! Kumusta? Tumaba ka ah...or the other way..."Payat natin ngayon ah..."
Heller....what's with the weight-related opening spiel, an intro or remark? I experienced that today, when I was at the mall. Which greeting? Both! Just one day! Geezz...how can I have gone from fat to slim in a matter of hours? Thanks for the compliment! Is this so called a filipino thing?
There are times that we don't know what to talk about or what to ask? Easy...a simple "hi" "hello" "how's been doing" would do. or even a smile we'll surely brighten up their day. Go! Fyt!

be happy

There are times when you feel so happy, it feels like its your last day on earth. But the reality is, pain and suffering is just around the corner. It's like happy moments (nostalgic moments) are reminders that we should get ready anytime for another challenges or trials to come. I believe that the best will happen everyday, just be aware that even trials are gift to make us strong enough to face life and trying times. Do i sound so pessimistic? hope not, I just realized something that I have personally experienced many times.
For almost 22 years, the life I have been living taught me some very priceless lessons and I'm keeping them stored in mind. Right now, I just want to enjoy these happy moments but I know to set limits. I have a very loving, supportive, generous and cool parents who won't ever get tired of taking good care of me and my two brothers. A good job, my irreplaceable friends, new found friends and hopefully a very loving, sincere partner...soon :-) What more can I ask for?
"Everything that makes me happy are in my hands right now and when the time comes I fall, I'm pretty sure I'll get up."

Past-Present and Friends

The Lord said He did not come to abolish the law but to fulfill the law.

This means that the past is not the enemy of the present. It means that we build our present according to lessons and blessings of the past. And yet, we know that we have an insidious tendency to blame the past for all the mistakes we presently experience.

The government blames Ferdinand Marcos, Cory Aquino, Fidel Ramos, Joseph Estrada and President Gloria Macapagal-Arroyo for our mistakes today. We blame the spanish missionaries for our religion now. We blame our great grandparents, our parents for not sending us to the right schools. We blame all mistakes of the past.

The past is not the enemy of the present because the present is built on the past. We cannot built the present if we continue to disrespect and erase the past.
Winston Churchill said, "If we continue to allow the past to become the enemy of the present, we will loose our future."

The past is not totally bad. We have so many things to be grateful to God for from the past. We would not be what we are now if the past had not been generous to us.
Of course, we cannot say that the past is perfect. Nothing is perfect. But to say that all our mistakes now, all our sufferings now are because of the past is severely unfair.

The past has gifts to offer. If we are humble, we can learn from these mistakes. If we are grateful enough we would be happy for the past.

biz-yo

why are there things that we just can't let go even with the fact that it is not doing us any good? bad for us, even???

drinking, for example... we know that alcohol is bad for the liver... but why do we keep on chole-ing ourselves???

smoking--- bad for the lungs. but still we continue to puff.
swearing, always gets me in trouble... but i just cant help but to... why? habit perhaps? nature? instinct?

i got a theory. it is because over and above the risks, we still choose to hold on because it liberates... it gives a certain feeling of ecstasy and well, at some point seemingly... control.

"...i can see the dark ahead if i stay"
ps point? identify your weakness, your kryptonite... give in if you must. but be cautious. you might lose yourself in the process.

Suffering

To suffer pain is part of humanity. I do not think anyone here is alien like Kokey to human suffering. Suffering comes to different people in different forms: sickness, poverty, loneliness, persecution, malignant and so many others. All of us have suffered...I too, one way or the other. I challenge anyone here, reading my blog, to tell me that he/she does not know what suffering means.

Some of our sufferings weigh too heavily on us that we cannot even share them with our closest friends. The paradox of human suffering is that sometimes we think we are the only individual suffering. When you have a headache, you can think that the world is unfair to you.

Suffering should not make us more selfish. Suffering should not make us impatient.

Suffering should not prevent us from serving, loving, healing and forgiving others.

Because the greatest measure of love is to love even if ourselves are suffering.